Using The "F*ck it" Button to Manage Anxiety
I’ve always been a caring person. If you know me, you know that I’m all about sharing what you’re feeling, having empathy for others and being self aware. But sometimes, I can care too much.
CARING TOO MUCH //
A symptom of Generalised Anxiety Disorder (and any Anxiety Disorder really) is overthinking and worrying about everything. From the smallest of things like talking to a waiter, to the big stuff like a potential terrorist attack. As much as these things seem irrational, we can’t help it. We can’t help caring too much about almost everything. Another symptom is perfectionism. We hold ourselves to impossibly high standards and absolutely shit on ourselves (not literally) when we don’t meet them. That’s why I have “The Fuck It Button”.
I can’t remember the origin of the fictional button but I’ve used it for ages. Whenever I’m having those anxious moments of “caring too much” about what people will think, or drowning in the “what if” scenarios, I try to push the Fuck It button as hard as I can.
It gives me that “Just Do It” attitude that comes with a good pair of Nike trainers.
SOME BRAIN TRAINING //
When I was seeing my counsellor, she would always ask me questions to make me fight with my anxiety. She got me to ask myself questions like “what good will come from thinking about that awkward high five last week?” or “why would anyone else care about me doing this?” and it helped. It’s one of the methods used in CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) to treat Anxiety. I’m 99% sure this behaviour of “pushing the fuck it button” comes out of habit from CBT. I’d been consciously battling thoughts and telling myself to not care about what people think or caring about being perfect that now, I almost do it subconsciously.
I recently did some button pushing and it was related to my blog actually. As you probably know, I’m a Web Designer who’s desperately trying to sort the business shit out and become self-employed. That on its own is an anxiety cesspit. Pair it with worrying about the blog, the audience, Instagram aesthetics, likes, shares, consistency, sponsorship, fake followers and facetune and it’s enough to make your head explode. I was doing this too much and juggling my passions/career goals and travelling was tooooo much for me to handle.
After having too much caffeine one night, I decided to push the Fuck It button on the blog.
Pushing the button doesn’t mean you’re giving up caring completely – you’re just choosing to not care too much. It’s a difficult concept to put into text, but I’ll use Instagram as an example.
AN EXAMPLE OF BUTTON PUSHING //
If you’re focused on getting tons of likes/engagement on your photo and want it to fit your feed, you’ll care about that picture. You’ll care enough to think about framing the shot. You’ll care enough to edit the colours to make it match your feed. You’ll even care enough to add in some good hashtags. The problem comes when you obsess about that picture.
“The shot isn’t framed correctly, I could have done better”
“People will think the edit is shit and call me out on it”
“I’ll just get spam comments and the caption will be terrible”
This is when you smack the Fuck It button and just POST THE PICTURE. You’ve done your due diligence and ticked the boxes for “Growing your Insta 101”. The work is done, let it go!
When you figure out how to care less about things, you can start to enjoy them more.
Now, I absolutely understand that there are times when you can’t just press the button. It’s like someone without Anxiety telling someone with Anxiety to “calm down, don’t worry about it”. It’s like pissing in the wind (what a weird saying that is btw…).
This technique helps me combat the perfectionist aspect of my Anxiety Disorder so I thought it was worth sharing. Telling you to “Push the Button” is easier said than done and it might take more work. Work through CBT techniques and image your worries passing by like clouds or birds flying away – or however your imagination works; everyone is different.
If you’re suffering from overthinking, or think you need a hand with your Anxiety, talk to someone. My advice obviously comes from personal experience and it’s not a substitute for seeing a therapist or taking medical advice.
Stay strong and carry on being the best version of yourself.
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